Q: A question I wanted to ask was about transitioning high schoolers into the open and minimally filtered Internet they will run into when they leave home after senior year.

For instance, our oldest just turned 17 and only uses a computer on a desk by the kitchen (sounds similar to your setup). But the idea of getting her a laptop of her own is coming. Can you suggest any resources that might help us teach, guide or monitor a teen on the precipice of a brave new world of unfettered access?

A: As my mother always said, “we cross our fingers and hope we did our best.” Once they are out of the house it’s about their exploration but with our values instilled! Giving her more access at this point may not be unreasonable but what type of child do you have? Is she responsible, respectful, open with communication with you and or your wife? Does she see the value of technology but understand the pitfalls and how to avoid them- everything from friending the wrong kind of people, protecting her identity (responsible use when she starts online banking and using a Credit Card online), and becoming addicted or too attached to the devices when balance in life is what is most important.

All of this is really very similar to the things you are already talking about… Getting a checking account, making new friends at school, who she will invite to her dorm, etc. Don’t make it about Technology- make it about responsible use and her behavior both in the physical world and online world!