Imagine a world where you never had to leave your house to hook up with a complete stranger … Wait: No need to imagine it, we’re already living it!
Web 2.0 gave us the ability to interact with those we know — and those we don’t — in a whole new way. Making friends online is easy, what with social-networking sites and multi-player live gaming.
But now we enter what I believe to be Web 3.0: The next generation of social networking — and it’s all video based!
For some time now, I’ve been watching the growing trend of people moving from text chatting to video chatting. It started with iChat and Skype, which gave users the ability to stream live video to one another. Then Stickam.com popped up; it’s a video-based social-networking site that allows multiple users to connect in one video chat room. You can be an active participant or just a lurker; it’s completely voyeuristic in nature. (During the 2008 election, you could watch Obama Girl on Stickam as she viewed the election coverage.) And last week on Stickam, I watched three young girls wait for 800 lurkers to enter their chat room — at which point they promised to “flash” their audience. (When I realized what they were doing, I sent all three girls a private message, begging them to stop. They publicly called me a narc and booted me out of the chat room.)
There are several of these video-chat sites popping up, including tinychat.com and Chatroulette.com. Tinychat is very similar to Stickam, but Chatroulette is different: You enter a room with two blank video windows — one is labeled “Stranger,” the other is labeled “You.” You then click a button and are randomly connected with a total stranger who is also playing. Now you two can video chat. At any time you can click NEXT, and the virtual wheel will spin again, connecting you with someone new. (The site is an upgraded video version of another chat room called Omegle.com.)
Two years ago, I would have said that the chat-room trend seemed to be decreasing. Teens were moving in the direction of social networks. But as video-based chats are surfacing, the trend is moving in the opposite direction.
When I asked a group of senior girls, “Why Chatroulette?” one of them responded, “Without video, people can pretend to be anyone they want. But I can see who I’m talking to with Chatroulette — so it’s totally safe and easier than trying to meet people at a party!”
For the record, I do not agree with their assessment that it’s “totally safe!”
One of the senior girls (who is 17) admitted that she’d met her boyfriend on Chatroulette, and said they’re “very much in love.” However, he’s 35! She most likely wouldn’t have met a 35-year-old man at a high-school party. But online, it’s easy to do.
Not everyone on Chatroulette will be looking to fall in love with the person he or she has randomly selected to chat with. But think about it this way: Would you allow your teenager to go to a bar or an adult singles’ mixer to meet new friends (not to drink, but just to meet people)? If your answer is anywhere in the vicinity of “That’s inappropriate,” you may want to talk to your teen about video chatting online.



I have a 15 year daughter and I have tried to explain to her that it is dangerous to talk to just anybody and to video chat with anybody.
She has chatted on facebook, myspace, msn messenger, yahoo messenger with people that supposedly is friends with a friend of hers from school. One guy sent her pictures of him(he looks to be 16-18) and wanted to come see her until she told him that I said it was not going to happen. Then she talked to another guy that claimed he is 18 and then when he found out that I knew he was planning to come to see her that he all of a sudden has a wife and is not coming. He sent her a picture and I said he looks older than 18years old. He offered to send a copy of drivers license, but never has.
I was going to college at a community college. A friend gave a guy on msn or yahoo messenger my ID and he kept asking questions that I thought were not any of his business so I did not talk to him. A few years after I finished college I was watching TV, it was a documentary, it was talking about people that were missing or murdered by someone that they met online. Then they started talking about a screen name that they that was connected to a dead college student.Scare thing was that it was the screen name of the friends friend that she thought I need to be “hooked up” with. I have talked to my daughter repeatedly about things they said on this show and she acts like I am just saying the things I tell her to be controlling and mean to her.
It is not so easy to talk and teach our kids not to do what “everyone else is doing”. My son, age 20, seems to think he can take care of himself. I had a pretty good relationship with my kids and then my son moved to live with his dad and my daughter is/was made at me for it so everything I do because I care and she is my daughter, she feels I do to be mean to her or keep her from enjoying life. So I would love to her how to get her to understand why I do these things.
Jami,
I don’t know if you are in the area but there is a screening of a new movie in Agoura this Friday. It’s called urFRENZ and it speaks to everything you just said! The movie is based on a true story and really delves into the issues related to teens NOT WANTING to hear what we have to say.
urFRENZ is currently screening in select areas. The next screening is Friday, March 26th @ 7:15pm as part of the Method Fest Film Festival.
Regency Agoura Hills 8, Theater 1
29045 Agoura Hills Road
Agoura Hills, CA 91301
Get Tickets HERE:
http://www.brownpapertickets.com/producerevent/103103?prod_id=2315
For future engagements in your area please go to http://www.facebook.com/pages/urFRENZ/196300089035